(Breather) Last but certainly not least, MOFO Mission assignment #10 is perhaps the most compelling of them all: quit being a dick to your partner! Romantic relationships have quite a big effect on hormone levels, and the stress your body experiences because of dysfunctions in your relationship will suppress testosterone, and this can truly make or break your MOFO manhood.

The goal is to display emotional self-stability, vulnerability, and kindness, while refraining from behavior like whining, complaining, or indulging in angry outbursts. Remember to remain calm, cool, collected, and clear-thinking as you encounter the daily stresses of life. 

Assignments:

  • Don’t speak if you have a negative emotional charge, advises John Gray. Learn how to manage your emotions, so you are able to embody what John refers to as the “calm, cool, collected Kung Fu master.” Getting bitchy and whining a lot is actually a sign of low testosterone/testosterone-deficiency.
  • Make time for cave time! When you focus on problem-solving, engaging activities, this helps rebuild testosterone. You can work out, play any kind of game (even a video game!), or try your hand at a home improvement project – anything that gets you away from the situation and any potential arguments that will just make you feel worse and worse over time. Males are not inclined to talk things out incessantly, and instead, are better served when they go off by themselves and engage in testosterone boosting activities.
  • Never argue, defend, or judge. Thank you The Imperative Habit author Dave Rossi for this one! This will just set your relationship down a downward spiral. 
  • Indulge your partner in “Venus Talks.” John Gray highlights the importance of letting your partner vent (sometimes for great lengths!) while you listen intently, without offering advice, solutions, or constructive criticism. Of course this can be tough, as males are naturally inclined to jump into problem-solving mode when hearing of any issues, but this is not what females need. They instead need to be listened to and validated, without interruption, regardless of how helpful you think you can be in the moment! Truthfully, the most helpful thing is just to listen. Remember, John Gray once said: “The most masculine thing a man can do is listen.”
  • When you do experience a negative emotional charge, Swallow, Smile, and Suck It Up. Of course this doesn’t mean that you should just smile through everything in life and become a total doormat, but you will feel a lot better when you’re not being super emotionally reactive.

TIMESTAMPS:

The effect of your romantic relationship has on your testosterone level is profound. [01:30]

If you have a negative emotional charge, don’t speak. Take some cave time. [03:51]

Never argue, defend, or judge. [04:54]

Indulge your partner. Listen intently without offering advice. [05:28]

Men and women experience stress, love, and success in different ways through different filters.  [07:26]

Males have a short memory for conflict and resentment. [12:35]

The females want you to solve problems, protect her, and keep her safe. Don’t talk. [15:28]

Don’t argue, defend, or judge. [18:04]

Indulge your partner in Venus talks. It’s going to take a shift in mindset.     [20:25]

So the female assignments are to never nitpick because even tiny complaints can add up to be a big problem for the male. [22:58]

When the female expresses anger at you, she is touching your weakest spot.  She is trying to see if she is safe. [26:31]

Brad reviews all ten MOFO assignments. [27:46]

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QUOTES:

  • “One person shifting can cause their relationship to shift.”
  • “Innate hormonal differences between testosterone-dominant males and estrogen-dominant females set us up for pain and suffering when we try to evolve behind our primitive genetic wiring and the dated archetypes of the male breadwinner and the female caretaker.”
  • “Males have a short memory for conflict and resentment, and by simply going away, getting some cave time, and doing testosterone boosting activities, they return to the relationship refreshed and testosterone boosted.”
  • “In modern life, the female’s main threat, that she needs protection from, is your own anger.”

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Get Over Yourself Podcast

Brad (1m 30s): It’s time for MOFO mission assignment, number 10 last but not least. In fact last and perhaps most compelling and interesting of all the mission assignments. It is quit being a Dick to your wife or girlfriend. Yes, indeed. The effect that your romantic relationships have on your testosterone levels and have on your longevity is perhaps more profound than any other single variable it can make or break your MOFO manhood because the dysfunctional relationship will indeed suppress testosterone it’ll rise. Brad (2m 7s): Those stress hormones, that antagonize testosterone, it will do the same to your woman with her optimal estrogen levels and all the hormone imbalances that happen when you’re in fight or flight. And you’re arguing instead of supporting each other. And when you have a nurturing, successful, communicative, happy, fun, romantic relationship, it can send your testosterone through the roof. So here we go with assignment number 10. Understand that real MOFOs display, emotional self stability, vulnerability, and kindness. Brad (2m 40s): They refrain from bitching, moaning and angry outbursts. They remain calm, cool, collected, and clear thinking amidst the daily stresses of life like a peaceful warrior or what John Gray calls a Kung Fu master. So here quickly are some assignments inside this MOFO mission. Number 10 and we’ll of course get into great detail on each one. One is to don’t frickin speak. If you have a negative emotional charge, this is direct advice from the number one best selling relationship author of all time, Dr. Brad (3m 18s): John Gray. He says the male is to be a calm, cool collected Kung Fu master. You have to manage your emotions. If you get bitchy, cranky, whiny, you’re over baked. And that is actually a sign of low testosterone testosterone deficiency. The guy that cuts you off in traffic and chases you down and flips you off. These are signs of a male out of balance, not in their best realm. So you manage these negative emotional charges. These emotions that brew up like anger, resentment, jealousy, fear, whatever it is by taking cave time. Brad (3m 51s): So that’s the second element of the assignment. Don’t speak. If you have a negative one, emotional charge, take your cave time, which will help you rebuild testosterone. There are many options here, but they’re problem solving, engaging activities, especially physical activity. So going and doing a workout. If you prefer, you can tinker with your motorcycle in the garage. You can play a video game, all counting toward this major male biological drive of problem solving and mastering one’s environment. Brad (4m 22s): So a home improvement project, you can go off and hang out with the buddies. Brad (4m 54s): Go bowling. Go play some golf. Whatever it is, get away from the situation and the protracted arguments that serve to make you feel worse and worse over time, because we’re not inclined to talk things out incessantly we’re better off going off by ourselves or with a group of people that you’re not going to engage with in the manner that you might with an argument with your romantic partner. So taking that cave time. Number three is never argue, defend, or judge. This comes from the great book from Dave Rossi, The Imperative Habit. When you get into these conditions, arguing, defending, judging, you’re setting yourself into a downward spiral and relationship discord and dysfunction. And then a number four on the assignment list is to indulge your partner in what John Gray calls Venus talks. And this is where the female is allowed to vent and go through the trials and tribulations of her day, verbally, sometimes for great lengths. Brad (5m 28s): And you are there to listen intently without offering advice or solutions or constructive criticism. And I know this is tough because the, when the male is spoken to with a litany of problems described, the natural inclination is to try to problem solve and say, why didn’t you just tell your boss that you can’t work this weekend or whatever your instant awesome solution is, but this is the exact opposite of what the female needs. The female needs to be listened to validated without interruption and without even offering any helpful, constructive comments that you think are so helpful and so justified. Brad (6m 8s): Okay. So that’s the Venus talk in a nutshell. And of course you can listen to the wonderful three episodes with John Gray and the fantastic fourth episode where I carefully recap all the insights that came through on our discussions, as well as in his most recent book, Beyond Mars and Venus, where he gets into the hormonal underpinnings, that affect relationship interaction. So of particular interest to the MOFO mission and optimizing testosterone. So here’s a little discussion about how romantic relationships actually do influence your testosterone levels. Brad (6m 44s): As you expand your perspective beyond the straightforward examples of testosterone, helping to make bigger muscles or improve your cardiovascular performance, whether you’re MMA cage fighter, basketball player, triathlete, you can awaken to the importance of male hormone optimization in your role as a romantic partner, a supportive friend or family member, and even as a parent. So John Gray talks about how the innate hormonal differences between testosterone dominant males and estrogen dominant females set us up for pain and suffering when we try to evolve beyond our primitive genetic wiring and the dated archetypes of the male breadwinner and the female caretaker. Brad (7m 26s): So this is what’s happened in the explosion of culture in recent decades, in modern life, where we’ve exited these archetypes and where we weren’t asked to be all things to all people. And the man was expected to go out there, be the breadwinner, come home, pick his feet up, relax, watch, watch TV, drink a beer. And the woman is the master of the household, serving the man, his dinner and cleaning up and doing the dishes and being a caretaker and a nurturer. And that’s it. And now today, of course, women are kicking ass in the workplace and that would be a testosterone dominant environment, a competitive environment. Brad (8m 3s): So it’s against their biological underpinnings, their biological drives. And so that creates a lot of stress, anxiety and exhaustion in the modern female who’s asked to be all things to all people because we’re still expecting them to be the caretaker and all those natural biological drives as well as evolve into the amazing modern female. And on the male side, the men are now supposed to be sensitive and vulnerable and talking through things and all of this stuff. It’s not our natural inclination. Brad (8m 34s): We want to go solve problems, conquer our environment, and maybe not get too deep into the micro analysis of every relationship interaction. Okay. So here’s a quote from Gray about these evolving roles. We must acknowledge that men and women experience stress, love, and success in different ways through different filters. Males are wired to pursue goals and analyze and solve problems. Their driving purpose in life is to make a difference and be appreciated for it. Females thrive on happiness, gratitude, appreciation, and respect. Brad (9m 6s): Their driving purpose is to give and receive love. Okay, so the male is at his best when he is a Kung Fu master calm, detached, and clear thinking under pressure. When you get drawn into petty conflicts, protracted and unproductive discussions, reflexive, arguing, and nitpicking, this promotes exhaustion and testosterone depletion. How do you show up to the world, a woosy boy instead of a hero, which is what all men want to be in the story, angry, emotional, demanding, depressed, and defeated. Brad (9m 39s): Diminished males might withdraw into a protective shell and avoid authentic communication or alternatively express, unregulated urges and emotions. Each of these, a far cry from the characterization of a Kung Fu master. Ah, yah. So this is how you get into these ruts. You have accelerated aging, increased risk of disease and whew, no way to go. It’s the same health destruction as might happen if you’re eating a bunch of junk food and partying too hard. Brad (10m 9s): So we have to get a handle on these romantic relationships and get away from dysfunction. Just to be clear, we’re all in favor. It’s hard to argue that the evolution of culture is a bad thing. We want the females to grow out of that kind of narrow archetype. That was a sexist and all those kinds of things that we’re now exposing is kind of silly that the females expected to be in the home and the males expected to be the breadwinner and anything goes, all the rules are off the table. Brad (10m 39s): As Wendy Walsh says, when it comes to relationships. So if you, a new partner can work things out where the female is, the breadwinner, the ass kicker in the workplace. And the male is the stay at home, daddy and homemaker. All of these things can be made to work, but we have to recognize how they are going against our basic biological drives. In my show with Wendy Walsh, she talks about the inherent challenge of having the female earning more income than the male because it’s counter to a lot of our socialization, of course, and also counter to these deepest biological drives where the man wants to be the one conquering the environment and bringing home the bounty. Brad (11m 19s): So in Hunter gatherer times, it was bringing home the wonderful food for the clan. And today you can juxtapose that into bringing home the income, to support the family. So you gotta work hard and, and make things work and acknowledge these biological underpinnings. Now, this is where John Gray’s advice departs from a lot of modern expert relationship advice that you might have heard where we’re encouraging couples to talk things out, express your feelings at all times, be completely vulnerable and transparent. Brad (11m 51s): If your feelings are hurt, you step up to your partner and say, Hey, you hurt my feelings. When you were talking to Gary so much at the party about his amazing business and you didn’t really pay attention to me, John Gray says, look, when you say that when the male says to the female, my feelings are hurt. That is death to the relationship. So a bad deal. And instead the alternative option presented very compellingly. You don’t have to agree or disagree here. It’s just a suggestion that if you can manage your emotions and work through that, anger yourself through cave time or through advanced relationship skills, things are going to come out better for you in the long run. Brad (12m 35s): On that note. Gray claims that males have a short memory for conflict and resentment. And by simply going away and getting some cave time and doing testosterone boosting activities, they returned to the relationship refreshed and testosterone boosted. In choosing this option, instead of the obsessive need to get every petty complaint and resentment off your chest to your precious insensitive female partner, you will come out way ahead in the end, has John Gray says very colorfully in our podcast and on his videos, these stories often end up very well in the bedroom. Brad (13m 10s): That is when the male is able to maintain his role as a Kung Fu master, making the female feel protected and supported rather than getting into it every time there’s something, some imperfection that happens in the relationship. Can you reference any case studies of your own here? I sure can because when I feel inclined to react, when I feel an emotional charge boiling up, if I’ve been wronged in some way or want to judge or criticize something that’s going on with relationship dynamics, I try, hopefully I’m doing a good job. Brad (13m 46s): We can ask Mia Moore when she gets on the show and we talk about the John Gray insights together in a future show, it should be pretty fun to have a couple talking about couple advice. Anyway, when I feel these negative emotional charges brewing up, I try to slow down and consider my contribution to the situation. What could it be? Could it be possibly so, and in doing so, you try really hard to see the situation from the other person’s point of view. Brad (14m 18s): And when you can go through that simple exercise, sometimes it enables you to gain more emotional control and keep your mouth freaking shut instead of react quickly to whatever petty transgression has occurred. So definitely overall longterm, I’m going to come out with a thumbs up for the John Gray suggestion, rather than let’s say, hypothetically, this is a completely opposite, a counter suggestion to talk it out and share every little thought feeling and emotion that you have with your partner. Brad (14m 54s): Even if it’s a difficult thing that you know, she might take offense to or what have you. Yeah, try it. I mean, go ahead. What do you have to lose? Shut the F up one time. Swallow your pride one time. Go and work through it on your own by going and shooting a few baskets or playing a video game or jogging around the block, teaching the dog in new trick, whatever it is and see if you return to the relationship refreshed and reenergized and try to have that important short memory of conflict and resentment and see if things and very well in the bedroom. Brad (15m 28s): Hey, that’s pretty good incentive, huh? Okay. So details on the male assignment. You never speak. If you’re feeling angry or have any sort of negative emotional charge. Here’s a quote from John Gray about this issue. She wants your tea, man. She wants you to solve problems, protect her, understand her and keep her safe. The males primary role is to protect the female from danger. That’s our deepest biological drive. Brad (15m 60s): In comfortable, modern life the main threat to protect her from is no longer the saber tooth tiger coming into camp and threatening our lives. In modern life the female’s main threat that she needs protection from is your own anger. When you say, I feel hurt, this is death to a relationship.. You must remain calm, cool, and collected and do what works in whatever given situation. If you don’t know what works, don’t do anything and don’t speak. Brad (16m 31s): That’s the most important thing. Quiet the mind. Stop talking. How many times do I have to tell you this? Don’t talk. End quote from John Gray. Whew. And let me tell you, I hope I gave you enough energy behind that quote because it is truly a life changing quote. And when he said it to me straight up, I had the privilege of looking at him directly through the, the zoom camera. Oh my goodness. The power and the impact that had on me to realize that this is the role. This is the way of the evolved, the superior man. Brad (17m 2s): Speaking of the title of another great book by David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man, offering many similar insights that the man has to be the rock, the hero in the story that Kung Fu master, okay. That’s enough of that one. So I challenge it to do it one time. The next time you experience a negative emotional charge, swallow smile, and suck it up and see what happens. I think you’re going to build momentum in that positive direction. And of course this doesn’t mean become a doormat and smile your way through life when things are on your mind. Brad (17m 35s): But if you do have something to talk about and you have a relationship challenge to address, you can say everything you need to say in loving kindness, and then the proper circumstances, the proper situation. So this is mainly about not being emotionally reactive and being strategic with the dispensation of communication, which is great advice for in the workplace, interacting with the community, being a parent, all those kinds of things, very important to choose your words, choose your timing, choose your tone. Brad (18m 4s): Okay. Number two, inspired by Dave. Rossi’s The Imperative Habit. Habit number five is called don’t judge. And to practice habit, number five, we need to practice not arguing or defending either. So it’s don’t argue, defend or judge. And that includes not only judging others, but don’t judge yourself either. Here’s a quote from Dave’s book to practice habit. Number five don’t judge. We need to practice not arguing or defending either arguing and defending are both forms of nonacceptance and judgment. Brad (18m 39s): The first step in practicing this part of the non-judgment habit is, of course, acceptance. We should aim to accept others’ points of view and positions without asserting our own opinions in a manner such that we are not offering justification or defenses for our own, just accept others’ points of view and positions. Wow. That’d be fun after let’s say a presidential debate or something that you can can easily argue over. Yeah. Okay. I see your point. Okay. Good job. Yeah. Thanks for sharing. Brad (19m 9s): When we do give our own opinions and justification’s we argue arguing is a product of the condition itself needing to feel better about itself. Arguing is attempting to be right, and it makes the conditioned self feel comfortable. The mind of the conditioned self loves to be comfortable. The conditioned self wants us to base our personal value or self-esteem on what others think of us being right, arguing, being defensive. Brad (19m 39s): This is all an attempt to get into that comfort zone of what he calls the conditioned self. However, being right or correcting someone does not please help us achieve our goals. Ha! So we’ve got to keep up focused on the goal in an unloving romantic partnership. Oftentimes apparently the goal is to be right at the expense of relationship intimacy. Yeah. Can you relate? Who cares? Why not just have the goal of being close and connected and even if your partners uttering a misstatement, that’s not factually accurate and you know, better, maybe just let it flow one time and just, you know, validate people never argue, defend or judge. Brad (20m 26s): Nice one. Next we talked about indulging your partner in Venus talks. And I want you to get very good at this skill, this skill of listening without offering constructive feedback or helping to solve these problems. And it’s going to take a shift in mindset because most of us feel pretty darn good when we come up with an awesome solution and it feels good to help others and get that validation and a big fat thank you and a pat on the back. Brad (20m 57s): But when it’s time for Venus talks and try to use your perceptiveness, your sensitivity, that this is a chance for your female to just vent females need to vent. Maybe you don’t, maybe you just process things in your head and that’s your preferred manner, but step into someone else’s shoes and realize when it’s time for a Venus talk and play that role exceptionally well. Okay. And then finally, indulgent cave time to replenish testosterone, especially in, let’s say if you sat patiently listening for a half an hour of Venus talk, whether it was details about the shopping excursion to the mall or whatever your female needed to blow off steam, sometimes they need to just work through problems, challenges, and feelings out loud, and you were there to nod and smile and listen carefully. Brad (21m 45s): So if you feel that buildup where you’re getting a little frustrated. Yeah. It’s OK to depart from the lengthy conversation with one of the skillful lines that John Gray success suggested in our show. I think he said one of them was, “Okay. I hear you. Thank you.” And when you say that that’s a sign that the conversation is to be curtailed before you do get frustrated or before the Venus talk, the venting and complaining gets directed at you. So that’s one of the ground rules of the Venus talk is that your female partner can complain and bitch and moan about anything that happened during her hectic stressful day, but you’re not allowed to go at it and have that venting be directed at the male. Brad (22m 29s): And if it happens, you pick and choose your preferred spot to say, I hear you and let’s talk about it later or whatever you need to say to shut down the dysfunctional conversation. Okay. So that’s some little nuances there that you’re not just to sit there and be the show pony while your partner’s nitpicking about your cleanup habits around the home or what have you. So finally indulging that cave time I gave you numerous suggestions and descriptions before. Brad (22m 58s): So it’s anything that makes you feel good, gives you a sense of self satisfaction and you can blow off some steam, whatever works. I guess we should mention a little bit of the John Gray female assignments. Not that I want you to go over to your partner and dispense these as mandates. So it’s mainly for your own perspective and interest, awareness of how the female can be the best that she can be. And if you have a super awesome, healthy, communicative relationship with the female interested in what you’re doing and the MOFO mission that you’re on, maybe you still want to listen to these. Brad (23m 33s): So you can kind of bring her in for the last little part of the episode here. So the female assignments are to never nitpick because even tiny complaints can add up to be a big problem for the male. The male will feel diminished, criticized, and tend to withdraw rather than engage and want to continue to pursue the role of hero in the story. So they should always be expressed as preferences. Brad (24m 3s): For example, “Hey, you’re continuing to leave the kitchen messy every night” is going to turn the male on the defensive and a much better idea would be to express the preference of, Oh my gosh, I love so much how you clean up the, the kitchen before the next day. Cause I love getting a fresh start in the morning. And so looking for opportunities to compliment the male and inform him that these behaviors work really well for the female. Brad (24m 34s): This will encourage, inspire and motivate the male to be the best that he can be because he wants that recognition. He wants to feel like the hero and that will be vastly more effective than nitpicking and criticism. And that’s the way to achieve a downward spiral. So again, female assignments do what you want with them, but please understand that one person shifting can cause their relationship to shift by definition. So if you can just focus on executing your mission to indulge the Venus talks, don’t speak with a negative emotional charge. Brad (25m 11s): Don’t argue defend, or judge. Make sure that you get that cave time, no matter what you can assert yourself and say, I need to take some time to myself right now and get those as ground rules in the relationship. If you can execute successfully with all those, the relationship is going to come around and you may just find your female being the best that she can be more frequently. My gosh, I mentioned The Way of the Superior Man, the book by David Deida. And if you really want to go out on the limb and go for some extra credit and some advanced points here, he has a really interesting insight in the book where he describes your female’s anger or the repeated anger. Brad (25m 52s): If it’s on the same issue is a strategy most likely subconscious, but it’s a female biological drive strategy to repeatedly probe your weakest spot. So if your weak link is when the female complains about you being messy in the kitchen, when you think you do much so much outside that, you know, you’re not going to really worry about one plate in the sink. If that’s your weak spot and you continually have it brought up for discussion, this is your female, probing your weakest spot, your weakest link in order to make sure that she is still safe. Brad (26m 31s): So Deida says, when this happens, lean into that anger and embrace it, rejoice in it, understand it for what it is. She’s trying to make sure she’s safe and make sure that she’s still loved. And so she’s poking you in the ribs, poke and poke and poke and wanting you to be deep down, wanting you to be that Kung Fu calm, cool collected master instead of the bitchy boy who snaps back and comes up with counter-arguments. So he goes so far as to say, is that if possible, if safe, if it feels good to your instinct, you go over to the woman while she’s nitpicking you while she’s touching your weakest spot and just touch her physically and even give her a hug. Brad (27m 13s): And that’s really the best way to resolve these negative patterns. Whew! Sounds pretty awesome. Doesn’t it? Okay. Brad (27m 46s): So little side note from The Way of the Superior Man, and mostly talking about the great advice from John Gray on our four fabulous podcast episodes. And there you go there, you have it, a wonderful assignment, number 10 to complete your MOFO mission. And just to recap, and I hope you go back and listen to each show or the shows of particular interest to you characterizing the 10 assignments of the MOFO mission. Number one was of course sleep is number one, everything emanates from a healthy good night’s sleep. Number two was clean up your act. Ditch, toxic foods, toxic substances, toxic relationship dynamics, and toxic energy in your life. Summon the courage to face life’s challenges and take action instead of drifting into familiar, but dysfunctional ruts. Brad (28m 38s): Number three was eat ancestral foods, especially the most nutrient dense foods on the planet. These are the sustainably raised animals in a nose to tail eating strategy complimented by nutritious whole foods, such as according to your preference, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and seeds. And most importantly is establishing a zero tolerance policy for the crap, the refined grains, sugar sweetened beverages and industrial seed oils. Number four is pound the MOFO. Of course, we want you to replenish your cellular energy to give you the rest, the vitality, the motivation to carry out the other assignments. And this is where the male optimization formula with organs can come on strong because it has that ability to naturally boost your internal testosterone production through the proteins peptides, enzymes co-factors and molecular bio directors. Brad (29m 15s): You’re consuming freeze-dried, grass-fed cattle, animal testicle that has that specific signaling that you need to get your testicles working well and producing the testosterone and your body utilizing it properly. Okay. Number five is move frequently. And this starts from a foundation of J F W that stands for just freaking walk. And we need to walk and move as much as possible. We need to orchestrate opportunities to walk in daily life because we have so many sedentary forces. Brad (29m 47s): And of course, in this category of moving frequently, many other things count my fabulous morning routine that I’ve talked about so much on the podcast, which consists of an assortment of flexibility, mobility, core core strengthening, leg strengthening, yoga moves. That’s all counting toward my daily movement quota. Humans are meant to move. Number six is Hit it Hard. And that’s the integration of brief intense strength training sessions and all out sprints. Brad (30m 17s): These explosive efforts will prompt a spike of the adaptive hormones, including testosterone and human growth hormone into the bloodstream and deliver profound, comprehensive anti-aging benefits. Of course, if you overdo it on your exercise, you’re going to trash your testosterone as good as anything else, any other unhealthy lifestyle habit. But if you do it right and conduct these workouts properly, and I have so many beautiful, complete shows talking about how to do it, right? Brad (30m 51s): The breather show about Hit versus Hurt, the top nine reasons that things are going well in 2019, the title of another breather show where I talk about my success with the high intensity workouts, okay. Number seven is take control. Most importantly, overcoming that nonstop digital stimulation and distraction. And hyper-connectivity by focusing, prioritizing and powering down with unwavering discipline. In its place, in, in place of being a victim of hyper-connectivity implement proactive daily rituals, such as the morning movement routine, such as daily, cold exposure, things like that to put you in the proactive state, doing things for yourself, advocating for yourself and your health. Brad (31m 31s): Number eight is protect yourself. We talk a lot about the extremely disturbing modern problem of exposure to environmental estrogens, particularly through plastic that touch your food and drink. So ditch all plastics and replace with stainless steel or glass containers. You don’t want to be eating soy flax or corn based foods because they have a hundred times more estrogens than other plant foods. And you want to get the natural skin care products, home cleaning products. Brad (32m 2s): And also in this category of protecting yourself, we want to minimize our exposure to EMF, do a good job with that. And that takes us to a number nine: rest like a MOFO. Slow down and reclaim the lost art of downtime. These are things like a mid day outdoor stroll to get away from your office desk and the hectic environment that you live in, in your head and on your screen. Things like taking the dog out for a stroll as your final act in the evening, rather than just sitting in front of another yet another screen until it’s time to turn off the lights and go to bed. Brad (32m 42s): sSo resting like a real MOFO. And when it comes to your workout patterns, designing your training program, your fitness routine around the central goal, the prominent goal of recovery. So we have these recovery based workouts that I’ve talked about on breather shows and just a general sense that your most important objective is to constantly strike a balance between stress and rest, rather than a consistent application of stress, which seems to be the mindset of a lot of fitness enthusiasts that they want to get their 30 miles a week done, or they want to go to CrossFit three times or the triathletes who want to do at least three swim workout, three bike workouts, and three run workouts every week and all that kind of stuff. Brad (33m 23s): Okay. Rest and like a MOFO. And then number 10 Quit being a Dick to your wife or girlfriend. Be the Kung Fu master Instead. Thank you for listening to this assignment and the other nine. And that is the MOFO mission. Thank you for listening to the show. We would love your feedback at getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com. And we would also love if you could leave a rating and a review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts, I know it’s a hassle. Brad (33m 59s): You have to go to desktop iTunes, click on the tab that says ratings and reviews, and then click to rate the show anywhere from five to five stars. And it really helps spread the word so more people can find the show and get over themselves because they need to thanks for doing it.

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